In reflecting on Saul's overall comments I can see that Saul was very unhappy about me not allowing him to stay for two additional months for a 27% discount on what he paid when he booked through Air BnB. I believe his comments are retaliative for not getting his way. Childish, but then again, he is just barely an adult at 20 years old.
It is interesting to read Saul's review because I asked him several times if he was bothered by any noise and he said "NO". The walls are made of lathe and plaster and the house is 112 years old - it's true that it was not the building practice back then to put insulation in the walls. It is a large house and sometime we may have to talk loudly to communicate from one floor to another. Also sometime, it is hard with a 12 year old who is not cooperative and needs to be told to do things several times. I wasn't aware that the alarm system woke Saul as he never mentioned it to me. He'll have to give me more feedback because I don't know what he is talking about. Had he told me, I could have made an adjustment and turned down the volume of the voice responses. I did make adjustments when Saul told me he was cold and would like a heater in his room. He is the first guest I have had who said the room was cold. The other guests kept the window open all the time. Then again, Saul is from Israel, a warm country and the other guests were from Europe.
The issue of the toilet water being yellow I find funny - Saul has lived in the CA since he was 17 and we have had a drought for more than that number of years. YES it is our family's practice to not flush after peeing as it should be everyone's practice in any state experiencing DROUGHT. The toilet, floor, bath/shower, sink and counter were always clean unless Saul had used them. He regularly left a path of puddles. I didn't have a problem wiping up after him but my husband and son were very annoyed that he always left the seat up on the toilet even after I talked to him about it. Regarding Saul's comment on "microagression" - that is pretty weird because I don't think there is anything aggressive about not knowing that someone comes from another country or saying "I didn't know you aren't American". I love hosting international people and have lived in Europe, Asia, Africa & South America for over 10 years! In this particular case Saul and I happen to have the same ethnic background and religion so maybe he had limited understanding about something I said. And BTW Saul made disparaging comments about his own nationality implying there are some (bad) Israeli's that gravitate to living in Los Angeles and the more reasonable ones gravitate to the Bay Area. Saul is a programmer. My 12 year old wants to be a programmer. I asked Saul questions about how his parents dealt with him wanting to be on computers. - Is that disparaging? I was genuine.
Lastly, regarding privacy. When Saul received a FEDEX package I open the door to his room while he was at work and place the package on the chair so he would get his package. I did not hang out in his room and take note of possessions. When I was informed Saul wanted a heater in his room, I got him a heater and put it in his room while he was at work. After 3 weeks, I offered to wash Sauls sheets. Naturally I had to go into the room to take the sheets off the bed to wash them and then again I had to go into the room to make the bed up again. Those are the only times I was in Saul's room over the entire month. I would understand that Saul might feel creepy if I was nosing around in the room and going through his stuff but that is absolutely not the case. On the other hand, what I found creepy about Saul regularly left his girlfriend in the room when he went off to work - for two days at a time! I could hear here in there and I didn't open the door I just talked to her through the door. She never came out to eat or use the rest room. She said she was going to leave but never did and if she had wanted to leave, how was she going to lock the house? Did Saul give her our house key? Was she going to just walk out and leave our house unlocked? Saul's girlfriend, Eden is very nice. I took it all in stride but I am a little insulted by Saul's macro-aggression toward me. If you have been in a victorian house, you might be familiar with the fact that all doors have locks on them. The locks take skeleton keys. The guest room door has the same lock as every other door in the house and takes the same key. At no point did Saul communicate any interest in having a key for his door, nor did he say that he didn't want me going it to drop off a package, heater or washing his linens. If I had given Saul a key, I still would have had a key to get in the room - it's in my house - where we live after all.
Again, I just think Saul is being retaliatory about "feeling" forced to move out because I wouldn't bend to his will and rent the room for $1100 a month.